All Stages of German Wedding
Four Stages of German Wedding
A wedding in Germany is a fun and crowded event. After all, a wedding is a special day, and every couple wants to make it memorable for life. Modern city weddings are similar to weddings in other European countries, but there are also features that are honored and followed in the organization of weddings. Wedding traditions vary depending on the region, but there are some that are common throughout Germany.
As in many other countries, in Germany young people traditionally say goodbye to their single life and arrange an unforgettable party: a bachelor party for the groom and a bachelorette party for the bride. Such a farewell party is called Junggesellenabschied, and it is usually held a few days before the wedding itself. Previously, it was as follows: the bride and her friends in spicy outfits walked down the streets and handed out bottles of beer and kisses to passers-by men.
In recent years, the Anglo-American version of the bachelorette party, the so-called "pajama party" has become more popular in Germany. The bride invites her friends over, and the girls relax to the full: make funny hairstyles, do makeup, masks, manicure, pedicure, and massage. Frankly Speaking, they arrange a real Spa for the bride. Of course, all Spa treatments are accompanied by eating all sorts of goodies, and, of course, various cocktails. For such a party, girls dress simply and funny. They wear pajamas, long t-shirts, shirts, shorts, funny socks, and slippers.
Well, grooms’ parties remain the same at all times: there are alcohol and women. The initiative of the bachelor party is taken by the groom's friends, who organize noisy parties with female dancers.
Some brides also do not lag behind the grooms in this regard and spend hen parties in strip clubs with the inscription: "Men are not allowed to enter".
The day before the celebration is an informal event called Polterabend, which involves the bride and groom, their parents, relatives, friends, neighbors, etc. Often there people who the couple could not invite to the wedding, but would be happy to see, for example, neighbors, friends, and colleagues.
The purpose of the event is to break a lot of dishes because it is known to be a lucky omen. Dishes that the future newlyweds will break are brought by the guests. Breaking dishes is accompanied by laughter and jokes as well as the encouragement of the bride and groom. Sometimes the groom and bride are having a contest on who is will break more dishes faster. When everything that could be broken, turns into tiny pieces, the groom and the bride are armed with brooms and shovels and do the cleaning.
Sometimes Polterabend is combined directly with the wedding celebration, and it is a relatively new wedding tradition in Germany.
The payment of wedding expenses in the old days was the responsibility of the bride's family. Today, this German wedding custom is observed only if the bride's parents really have the opportunity to pay for the wedding without much difficulty. Currently, wedding expenses are usually carried out by both families, and in some cases, by the bride and groom if they stand on their feet themselves and can pay for their own wedding.
German brides wear the same wedding dresses as everywhere else. But in Germany, probably more often than in other countries, brides choose simple and comfortable outfits that could be worn after the wedding on other special occasions. German women are practical and emancipated. The cherish comfort and do not depend on the opinions of others.
In recent years, however, even in large cities a wedding in a church is becoming increasingly popular. Everything is traditional. There is a long white dress on the bride, a black suit on the groom, the same dresses on all the bridesmaids and of course, the bell ringing and notifying the whole district about the wedding ceremony. But such a wedding costs a lot of money, and not everyone can afford it. Many newlyweds prefer to spend more on the arrangement of their future life together or just on a memorable wedding trip.
As in other countries during the wedding ceremony, the German bride and groom exchange rings that are worn on the ring finger of their right hand. Rings are usually quite simple, and the same differing only in size.
After the wedding or registration of marriage, the Germans arrange a ride of the wedding cortege decorated with flowers and white ribbons. The modern motorcade consists of cars of guests invited to the wedding, but the most popular are carriages with horses.
The newlyweds usually spend their wedding night in a good hotel.